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Why I Wear the Hijab

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Hello, my beautiful friends 🙂 How are all of you feeling today? I hope you’re well, cuz I’ve got quite the post for you! World Hijab Day is just ’round the corner on 1st Feb so I decided that it might be fun for a little blogging collaboration in celebration of this day. A lot of the times, the people I meet are curious about my hijab – why I decided to wear it, when I decided to put it on, etc. I’m sure many of you have had some of these questions in mind as well so today, as part of this collaboration, I will be sharing my story. At the end of this post I will also be linking you guys up to a few other bloggers who have been so kind in joining me in this little project. I hope that these different experiences will give you some insight into our relationship with our faith and how each of us personally found meaning through the act of donning the hijab.

THE TRIGGER

My decision to start wearing the hijab came rather unexpected. Before then, I always told myself that I’d wear it after I get married and settle down. The trigger to don the hijab came mid-2010, just a while after my late grandmother passed away. I’ve never experienced a loved one’s death before then, and that experience really shook me. My late grandmother took care of me when I was growing up and for me to lose someone who played such a huge role in my life… I don’t really have the words to describe it. I don’t think I’ve gotten over that loss, even up to this day.

That experience made me lose my bearings a little… I was lost for a while and in the months after that, I came to the realisation that life is short and you can’t live any bit of it with regret. Not that I didn’t know that before, but these things took on a whole new meaning when the harshness of reality kicked in. I remember I was on a train home when the thought hit me out of nowhere and I told myself, right then, right there, “I am going to put on the hijab.” Perhaps it was my new life motto pushing me to take the plunge, but looking back, I think it was a way for me to deal with that loss. At that point of time, it was my way of shutting out the world and giving myself time to heal and grow, before I was ready to step out again.

FINDING MYSELF

At that time I was also grappling with lots of insecurity issues – I was very much aware of society’s standards of beauty and I felt like I couldn’t match up. I pegged my worth to that unachievable standard, which led to a really low level of self-esteem. I felt that donning the hijab was a way of rebelling against it, and in a way, that helped me to work on the other parts of me that I was neglecting up until that time. Quality of thought, social skills, creativity, leadership… I explored all these other facets to my identity which helped me to grow as a person and overcome a lot of my insecurities. It was a little while after that when I started experimenting with fashion and beauty again. I realised that I could create my own definition of beauty, and that in itself, was an act of empowerment that I’ve come to associate with the hijab.

LOOKING BACK

It’s been close to 6 years since I made that decision. Whenever somebody asks me the question, “Why do you wear the hijab?” I think that I will always recount the memory of losing my grandmother, because that really was the trigger point. But thinking about it right now, I think that the hijab has truly helped me to find myself. It was only after putting it on that I found the courage to dig deep and uncover all these little parts of me that were hidden and gave them opportunities to shine.

The hijab empowers me and teaches me that there is so much I can offer the world, so much I can do to make it a better place.

And for that, I am truly grateful.

 

Explore other hijab stories:

Why I Started Wearing the Hijab by Tiq

Why I’m Wearing Hijab by Andina

Why I Started Wearing the Hijab by Zubia

Why I Started Wearing the Hijab by Veena

Why I’m Wearing the Hijab by Fads (Updated 26 Jan)

Why do I Wear the Hijab by Wallflower Hijabi (Updated 26 Jan)

Why I Prefer to Wear Hijab by Kai (Updated 28 Jan)

(more to be added to this list very soon!)

 

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18 Comments

  • Reply FairyP

    Aww I’m so sorry to hear about your grandma. She’ll be super proud you.. Really enjoyed this post 🙂

    P xo

    http://www.FairyP.co.uk

    January 25, 2016 at 7:59 pm
    • Reply liyamh

      Thank you so much for reading 🙂 🙂

      January 25, 2016 at 11:45 pm
  • Reply Liyana Aris

    I’m sorry to hear about your grandmother. I experienced the loss of three grandparents, so I know how hard it is. It must have been wonderful for your grandma to have had such a loving granddaughter, though.

    I must say, what a beautifully-written post; I really enjoyed reading it. Looking forward to reading more things from you on this series =)

    January 26, 2016 at 2:18 am
    • Reply liyamh

      Oh dear, three grandparents? I don’t know how I will be able to handle that :'( Thank you so much for your kind words and for reading, Liyana!

      January 26, 2016 at 10:50 am
  • Reply Fads

    This is such an inspirational post. Keep on being who you are and love it. You go, girl!
    Love, Fads

    January 26, 2016 at 7:40 am
    • Reply liyamh

      Thank you so much, Fads 🙂

      January 26, 2016 at 10:51 am
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    January 26, 2016 at 10:28 am
  • Reply Andina

    Sorry to hear about your grandmother. Death surely can make a big impact on you. It’s beautiful how your grandmother’s death can cause you do such major transition. Thanks for making this great series!

    January 26, 2016 at 10:30 am
    • Reply liyamh

      Thank you, Andina. Indeed, all things happen for a reason and only something as major as this could push me into making that transition. Thank you so much for joining in and sharing your story!

      January 26, 2016 at 10:54 am
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  • Reply Wildfire Charm

    This was so heartfelt and well-written. I can totally connect with the loss of a grandparent, especially if they were closer to you than parents as well. I always love how you style your clothes with the hijab, very unique xx

    http://wildfirecharm.blogspot.com

    January 26, 2016 at 11:44 pm
    • Reply liyamh

      Thank you so much for your kind words. 🙂 I’m glad you enjoyed this post.

      January 27, 2016 at 7:01 pm
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  • Reply Kai | Lilpink

    Salam.. I also have the same post as yours. I will link you there. Hope you can visit. <3

    http://www.lilpink.info/2016/01/hijab-diaries-why-i-prefer-to-wear-hijab.html

    January 28, 2016 at 12:16 pm
    • Reply liyamh

      Salam Kai! Thank you so much for sharing your link! I just updated my links in this post to include yours 🙂 Definitely reading your story in a bit!

      January 28, 2016 at 12:55 pm
  • Reply Rosie

    Death is often a trigger for huge life changes. Congrats on embracing the hijab, I hope to followin your footsteps some day soon Insha’Allah xx

    Damzel In This Dress

    February 1, 2016 at 8:14 pm
    • Reply liyamh

      Thank you, Rosie! And yes, Insya Allah 🙂

      February 2, 2016 at 10:54 pm
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